Self-care. Lots of women talk about it. For some of us it's a priority. For some of us it feels unattainable. Though for all moms, it needs to be a priority. We spend so much time being a mom - caring for little humans - and giving so much of ourselves. We need to fill our cup in order to have anything left to give to our kids, or to our work.
But we all know this! So what makes it so hard? Finding the time? Knowing that we're worth it? Finding something that renews us and strengthens us?
Self-care doesn't have to be the same thing all the time. It can change depending on the day, month, season or what's going on in your life. With summer coming, motivate yourself to get outside, get active and get fresh air - even a simple walk!
When we say self-care, sometimes we are talking about community care. “Chatting with friends who are also moms helps too - especially if they are going though similar things with their kids - we all need a village.” Kat from Mountain Momma Collective says. And she's right. Finding your tribe of women who are in the same season of motherhood that you're in can boost your self-care and your connection to your community.
So what can you do for self-care?
Here are some real life examples from talking to moms just like you!
Mom-to-be or New mom? Get a postpartum doula!
As a new mom, having someone to care for you while you care for yourself and your newborn is so valuable. Postpartum doulas through Mountain Momma Collective offer newborn care, sleep education, lactation and feeding support, as well as light housekeeping, and meal preparation during this special time of getting to know your new baby. Overnight support is also available so you can get the sleep you need.
Schedule beauty time.
Find a salon or spa you love, get your nails or hair done. Put it in your calendar and make it a date yourself day!
Find your tribe!
Find a mom group! Join a momma & baby class, and you'll find other moms with babies the same age! Go to local libraries and community centres. Join our online communities - The Momma Village + The Momma Village - London. Other moms want to meet moms too!
Connect with your partner or spouse
Connecting with your partner or spouse after a long day is important. Short conversations every day that focus on each other - not just the kids and obligations - help self care for both of you. Make date night a priority - even just at-home dates!
For all the health benefits, working out can be so much more than that. When we commit to classes or programs, that commitment gives us two things - consistency and community. Your workout friends will hold you accountable - and give you a solid tribe of mommas!
Watch shows & movies
Put on comfy clothes or pyjamas and snuggle into a good show or movie. Need a pick-me-up when you're at home with your kids? Put on a feel-good Disney or kid-friendly movie. The silly fun and laughter will still boost your endorphins and it can be a family-care activity!
When you don't have time away from being mom, sometimes you can sneak little moments or nurture your emotional or mental health throughout everyday activities. Listen to a podcast or put on upbeat music while doing housework or playing with your children. Take the kids for a walk. If it's in your faith, find a spiritual centre where children will be cared for and taught to - giving you a break and self-care.
Sometimes its hard to remember just to EAT when we are caring for our families and making it to work and the grocery store! Meal-prep! Visit a farmer's market! Try new foods! Or order a meal prep service.
Sometimes we drink way too much coffee just to get through the day! Drink water to stay hydrated (especially if you are breastfeeding). Join MMC for our online Hydration Challenge that starts in June! Jen will share her amazing tips, tricks, and recipes for incorporating more water into your day.